1997

“1997, Missy. If we made it through 1997, we can make it through anything.”
-Jon
1997 was the year we married.
But it was so much more than just a wedding.
In 1997….
We were dealing with the aftermath of my dad’s massive stroke.
We were building a house.
Jon was in the police academy.
I was just out of college and starting my new job at 10tv.
We were planning our wedding.
Life was a roller coaster.
And we survived.
By the end of the year, we were married, the house was built, Jon was working for Hilliard PD and my dad was slowly recovering.
Since then, it feels like everything and nothing has changed all at the same time.
Miscarriages.
Connor.
Miscarriages.
Harrison.
A job change for me.
A huge life change in getting healthy together.
We both discovered new passions, new ministries, renewed our faith in God.
Jon found his calling in working with high school kids.
I found a way to get out of tv and still tell awesome stories and help others 😃
We did it TOGETHER.
It’s been 20 years since that day we walked down the aisle together… hand in hand… ready to start a new chapter as a married couple.
It was a scary year and we’ve had fears and doubts come to life right in front of us since then… but never ever have I doubted you, Jon.
Thank you for being more than my husband.
Thank you for showing me love and grace and kindness and faith.
You make me stronger every day.
We are stronger every day.
Happy 20th Anniversary ❤️

When Your Smile is Hiding Your Fears

Be kind. Be gentle. Be patient.

See this picture on the left?
That’s Jon and me at the Emmy awards in 2003.
Don’t we look fancy?
Don’t we look happy?
 
Well, we might have LOOKED fancy… but inside, we were freaking out.
 
When we arrived at the Emmy awards, where I was nominated for a regional Emmy, we were having fun… we were enjoying being dressed up…
 
We were also newly pregnant.
 
And while we were there, enjoying the excitement and fun of an awards party, I started bleeding…
The signal that I’d become all too familiar with.
The sign that this pregnancy wasn’t going to last, either.
Just like all the others.
 
I had to smile. And laugh. And carry on conversations.
All while my heart was breaking.
I wanted to cry.
I wanted to yell.
I wanted to break down.
 
But I couldn’t.
And neither could Jon.
So we leaned on each other and made it through the evening.
Driving home in quiet.
Praying all the way.
 
The next day was Mother’s Day.
Still spotting.
 
Convinced this was some cruel joke the universe was pulling on me.
Miscarrying on Mother’s Day.
That’s rich.
The next day we had an ultrasound.
And we saw it.
A heartbeat.
 
A tiny little fetus…. and a heartbeat.
The heart that’s beating now in that young man on the right.
I will never take that little heartbeat for granted.
 
There will be times when you don’t realize the person smiling at you is fighting a battle in their mind.
 
Be kind.
Be gentle.
Be patient.

Your Time to Shine

Let your light shine from within... because others want to see it and you are made to share it

True story: When I was little, I would get “lost” in Kmart to hear my name over the loudspeaker.

“Attention Kmart shoppers… we have a lost little girl named Missy….”

I used to love the spotlight.
I wanted to be “announced” 😉

Somewhere along the way, I lost that.
I faded into the background.

I became the friend who was quiet and listened and watched everything and everyone – and didn’t dare step into the spotlight.

I was afraid.
I didn’t want to fail.
I didn’t want to look silly.

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Why I’m a coach

Why do I coach?

This is my story.

I recorded this video for a coaching meeting –

I wanted to talk about why I coach… my motivation and my inspiration. My hope is that it inspires you, too.

Do you have questions about coaching?
Want to get started on your own health and fitness journey?
Do not hesitate to reach out. That’s why I’m here.

Mother’s Day : Mixed Emotions

Me and my boys

Me and my boys

Mother’s Day.

This is a tough one for me.

I kind of avoid social media on Mother’s Day.
I have mixed emotions about it.

When I was in my late 20s, we started trying to get pregnant.
We spent 2+ years getting pregnant and then miscarrying.

I didn’t get pregnant easily….
and I didn’t stay pregnant easily.

It sucked.
I hated my body.
It betrayed me over and over and over again.

I always thought I’d have this life where when I decided to get pregnant, I’d get AND STAY pregnant.

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Financial Freedom through Coaching

How fitness coaching is getting me fit, physically and financially

Coaching has helped us financially and physically“I can pay our mortgage with my monthly coaching earnings.”

That’s been my standard answer when someone asks me how lucrative coaching is for me. It’s a nice way to put coaching in perspective for those friends and family who are truly curious about how coaching has helped our family.

I’ve been saying it so long, that as my coaching business has grown, I’ve just kept saying it. I don’t like to discuss money. It’s not why I started coaching and it’s not why I continue to do it. So saying “it pays my mortgage” is a nice, succinct answer.

I’ve found most people are generally curious… When they see me working and helping others, they want to make sure I’m being compensated for giving my time to them. Since I do have a full time job in addition to coaching, they want to make sure I’m getting something in return. Trust me – what I get in return is far more than monetary.

Nowadays, I don’t really pay attention to the checks… we get paid weekly and when the checks come in, I use them for the extras in life, or to make a bigger payment on a bill. They have helped me not stress about money and have given me a way to give more to family, friends, our church. They have been a blessing – in more ways than one.

Since I don’t really pay attention to the checks… something recently caught me off guard.

I can still say they can pay our mortgage… but I didn’t realize I could actually be paying double our mortgage with those checks now.

DOUBLE our mortgage.
Wow.

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There’s Still Time for Your Dreams

There's Still Time for Your Dreams
I DON’T HAVE TIME.
I used to say that – all the time.
My first question when my husband asked if I wanted to start a fitness program with him:
“When will we do it? We don’t have time for that.”
My response when my coach asked me if I’d thought about being a coach:
“That’s funny. I have two kids, a husband and a full time job. When will I have time to coach??”
It’s been three years since I said those words…. and look at where I am today. Somehow, I found the time… and boy, am I glad I did.
So many people think they don’t have time to work out.
They don’t have time to eat healthy.
They don’t have time to build their dreams.
They don’t have time to help others get healthy.
I call shenanigans.
LIFE IS CRAZY BUSY.
Trust me, I know.
I work out for 30 minutes a day.
I spend about an hour a day coaching my team and my fitness groups.
3 years ago, do you know what that hour and a half would have been spent on? Watching TV. Hours of TV. LOTS of TV. Not anymore.
Now, I’m happier, healthier and more financially stable.
And guess what? So is my family.
There’s still time for your dreams.
Whether it’s to get healthy once and for all and STICK with it…
or to build a business that creates a life of freedom…
or BOTH.
There’s time.
I can show you how I do it, and help you figure it out for yourself.
YOU ARE WORTH IT.

I can’t do what you do…

Why anyone who wants to help others can coach

Missy CoachMonday nights are some of my favorites!! Say WHAT?!?
 
That’s because it’s my night to connect with my team of coaches. Share what I’ve learned with them and hear what they might need advice and help with. It’s a chance for us to take time as a team and come together to work toward helping others get healthy.
 
But you know what cracks me up? When someone looks at what I do as a coach and says, “oh, I could never do what you do”.
 
I’m no super woman.
I’m no professional speaker.
Shoot. I’m not even a fitness or nutrition expert.
 
You know what I am?
 
I am a woman who decided:

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Muscle vs. Fat

My personal experience with the lying scale

MUSCLE vs. FAT

The scale lies.

It’s something I have to tell myself and my clients – often. It’s just so easy to get wrapped up in that stupid number. That number that doesn’t reflect your worth. It doesn’t reflect your heart. Shoot, it doesn’t even truly reflect the hard work you’re putting in.

Here’s my lesson in muscle vs. fat. Pull up a chair, friend, it’s a good one.

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Pushing Past Fear

Be Fearless

Fear is a big fat liar.

Remember that.

 

Fear will make you say:

*I’m not strong enough

*I can’t do that

*I don’t have the willpower

*I’m not pretty enough

*I’m not skinny enough (WTH does that even have to do with anything??)

*I don’t have the the courage

*I’m not HER

*I’m not YOU

*I don’t have the time

*I’ve NEVER been (fill in the blank)

*I’ll NEVER be (fill in the blank)

*I’ll be judged

*I’ll be teased

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